tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3230968187946144531.post5511941956714648260..comments2023-10-31T07:31:24.963-07:00Comments on word.: The supporting charactersJennifer Worickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14415405216263347773noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3230968187946144531.post-38352198200217858622010-01-19T14:39:44.882-08:002010-01-19T14:39:44.882-08:00Chris, thanks for your thoughtful comment. I'm...Chris, thanks for your thoughtful comment. I'm going to print this out and keep it on my desk so I can refer to it again and again.Jennifer Worickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14415405216263347773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3230968187946144531.post-70960589074670925122010-01-18T15:02:49.197-08:002010-01-18T15:02:49.197-08:00Wow. A lot of my fears are echoed, here.
I kno...Wow. A lot of my fears are echoed, here. <br /><br />I know I'm two weeks late on this. But you may still be up for an answer. I think any writer, even if she isn't a memoirist, faces this. Because even if it's admittedly fiction, someone you know is going to take it personally, in a good or bad way. Or, they will think you must have actually done some of that killing that you've written about, or you've wanted to. And they sure as hell bet that you've been dating two people at once because your character has. So writing about your own life is scary as shit, at least to me.<br /><br />When my mom was alive I could never have shown her my work. Everything in it would have been taken too personally. So I honestly don't know how writers get past this. It takes a hardness that I don't have. Or, maybe it's a pragmatism. Or a passion for the work that I don't have enough of. <br /><br />It's easy to cheerlead you on, and tell you that the integrity of the writing is what counts and you can't let anything stop you. So I don't mean to be cavalier, but it seems to me, as someone who's not writing a memoir, that I would be poorer without memoirists who bare their souls and show us a mirror. I raise a glass to them. I will defend to anyone your right and reason for blowing it all wide open. <br /><br />And really, what all of us are thinking, even what our moms and dads are thinking, and our friends and kids are thinking, and what WE are thinking is: about ourselves. How does it affect ME. and you can't worry about what affects every ME out there. You ain't god and you can't control every ME. You can't even predict or know what every ME thinks. You'd probably be surprised. <br /><br />Of course, I'd never be able to handle the pressure. That's why I never wrote that memoir.Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03608720704163044033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3230968187946144531.post-20892860027284480782010-01-11T20:19:16.595-08:002010-01-11T20:19:16.595-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3230968187946144531.post-78665664898106933692010-01-08T07:20:38.591-08:002010-01-08T07:20:38.591-08:00Over the last couple of years I've decided tha...Over the last couple of years I've decided that if maintaining loving relationships involves only presenting a truncated version of who I am they're not really loving relationships. This includes relationships with family. Writing is a part of who you are, and writing honestly is being true to yourself. I really believe that the most worthwhile and happy way to live is to be yourself. I say go for it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3230968187946144531.post-60770915496471350602010-01-03T19:41:17.118-08:002010-01-03T19:41:17.118-08:00I think you need to recognize that telling the tru...I think you need to recognize that telling the truth will give you more credibility, in the end -- in the eyes of vastly more people -- than being diplomatic and skirting around the truth. And you write so well, I know the truths you tell will be compelling ones.<br /><br />-- Jim LowryAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3230968187946144531.post-44977586183505757342010-01-03T18:55:50.052-08:002010-01-03T18:55:50.052-08:00I would like to think that if you are true to expe...I would like to think that if you are true to experience, there's nothing to be ashamed of... That said, I am waiting until my parents are no longer able to view TV or the web so that I can write my screenplay of our Thanksgiving dinner from 1987. And frankly, if it's funny, at the end of the day, everybody wins, right? good luck.glam.spoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14775928503157260485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3230968187946144531.post-80414380395094868352010-01-03T17:59:42.388-08:002010-01-03T17:59:42.388-08:00My first thought was: truth hurts.
I realize th...My first thought was: truth hurts. <br /><br />I realize that's kinda harsh, though. It's one thing to air your own dirty laundry, another to out others without their permission or blessing. <br /><br />Maybe you could call it "mostly true," thereby giving any person you reference the option of claiming their story was the one you embellished/made up. Maybe it would help, too, if you gave them some advance warning of what you were writing about. (Or maybe this would make it worse?) <br /><br />I hope you find a way to make it work - would be a good read, I am sure!melindalanenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3230968187946144531.post-41012318120462412902010-01-03T16:57:16.247-08:002010-01-03T16:57:16.247-08:00I have nothing constructive to add here. Wish I di...I have nothing constructive to add here. Wish I did. As it is, I'm so chicken about my family discovering I blog on teh interwebs that I use my nickname. <br /><br />Me? Helpful? Not so much. <br /><br />Ultimately though you have to be true to you and hope that those who truly love you won't make it a conditional thing. But people are weird.mduettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03376940667786821461noreply@blogger.com